You didn’t let him down, you let him go. You stopped asking for answers you already know.
He has yet to see what he could not choose.
The gift of loving himself over the ease of being loved by you.
Why is it, just when we think we’ve got it all figured out, the bottom drops out, and we have to start all over again? In one of my workshops, a woman in her 50’s asked, “Should I be concerned that I’m still asking myself the same questions the girl in her early 20’s just asked?” We all laughed, because it did seem absurd that 30 years of living still didn’t provide the bigger answers we all think we need.
You love to love and your love is kind, accommodating, tolerant, extremely giving and insightful. It’s easy to see where someone else is acting out of fear, trying to protect where they’ve been wounded before. When someone lies about how they truly feel and then acts the opposite, their confusion becomes so clear to us.
Is anyone else confused lately? Suddenly it feels like I’ve been plucked out of my old life, my vision and master plan to move ahead in the world has lost it’s impact and confidence, my patience with waiting out this massive transition is growing thin, and there are people in my life that I’m now questioning how they even got there.